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why i hated dating in japan [wGBKvA7CEbU]
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Overview
Daniel recounted his dating experiences in Japan starting around 2010 and using Tinder from 2017, detailing personal grievances and behaviors observed among Japanese women.
Noted dating issues include profile picture concealment, rapid decisions regarding marriage or cohabitation, emotional reactions over small occurrences, and traditional gender expectations during dates.
Challenges with love hotel visits involved dates changing their minds after entering paid rooms, alongside encounters involving unexpected guests such as a date's male friend or husband.
Themes
Concealment of faces on Japanese dating profiles using poses, objects, or animal photos, and the requirement to establish rapport before receiving pictures.
Speed of relationship milestones in Japan compared to Western contexts, including cohabitation proposals and marriage inquiries occurring after short dating periods.
Traditional expectations placed on men during dates, such as walking on the traffic side of the road to protect their partner.
Dynamics of asking dates to attend love hotels and instances where women changed their mind after entering paid rooms.
Social practices such as group dating (gokon) and instances of dates attempting to invite third parties, including an encounter involving a married woman and her husband.
Developments
A woman cried during an undated 2010 restaurant date because Daniel could not finish his food, leading her to feel insulted about her own consumption.
Uncertainties & gaps
The exact reasons why Japanese women frequently hide their faces on dating profiles remain unconfirmed, though Daniel suspected embarrassment regarding friends or family discovering them.
The exact motivations causing women to change their minds after arriving inside love hotel rooms were uncertain to Daniel, who speculated about mood shifts, fear, or room atmosphere.